Porn Addiction – a growing phenomenon.

Over the last few years I have noticed a huge increase in the number of clients coming to see me for pornography addiction. With the easy access of porn on line, and on tablets and phones, many men are having trouble resisting the urge to view porn more and more often, and it can be scary how quickly this can turn to an addiction.

Some of the key elements in the development of a porn addiction are starting to watch porn at a young age, controlling or uninvolved parents, loneliness and isolation, seeing a model of unhealthy relationships and early sexual abuse.

Once you have realized that you are addicted, your path to freedom starts with the realization that you’ve lost control around sex. You begin to acknowledge that you’re acting regressively and that you are probably a mature man in many ways, but you don’t understand intimacy and have confused intimacy with sexual activity.

Another thing that can be a he realisation is that you can’t get enough of what won’t satisfy you. Objectifying and sexualizing people is an never ending, negative process that yields a few minutes of excitement, a brief orgasm, then hours, days, weeks, months and years of fear, pain, shame, self doubt, self criticism, judgement and anger.

Doing this work will free you from the shackles of your negative sexual story.

Many men who have done so look back and see this as their rite of passage into true manhood, free of old compulsive sexuality. You can then take the energy you are expending on addictive behavior and channel it into a more satisfying career, intimacy and better relationships with a partner and with your family and friends. You’ll really get a life in the full sense.

Counselling for Porn addiction with qualified and experience Psychologists is available in 60 locations Australia wide at the Hart Centre. Call 1300 830 552 to find out more.

Anger management courses help save marriages

“I thought I was in a pretty good marriage with occasional arguments until my wife said to me “If the next year of our marriage is as bad as the last year, I’m outta here”.

She felt as if she was always walking on eggshells so as not to set me off. Any time she disagreed with me, I immediately went on the attack and tried to defeat her point of view by almost any means. So when she told me she had taken all she could stand, I took her seriously and decided that I had to do some frank soul searching to find out why I kept losing my temper, so I could not lose the person who meant the most to me in the world”.

As I looked back many of my habitual ways of dealing with the world were driven by anger. I was an aggressive driver, using my horn and my “freeway finger” whenever people weren’t travelling the way I thought they should be. If the mechanic told me something needed fixing on my car, I was sure he was exaggerating for his own financial gain. I thought I had an unusual ability to see through a hypocrite, and since I thought that most people were, I got a lot of practice of seeing through them.”

This is one story of a man who came to me for help in dealing with his anger problem.

As a Psychologist, I’ve seen many of my clients lose their jobs, wives and opportunities because they were simply not able to handle the normal frustrations and disappointments in life.
They argue, they insult and they sulk.

They come to see themselves as ineffective, unlucky, of just plain losers. They don’t admit this to anyone, but deep inside they don’t like themselves. Their anger gets in the way of their ability to be good bosses, good workers and good family men.

For many men who have been charged with serious crimes, such as assault and murder, it is clear that these are not pre-meditated. These men didn’t start out with the intention of hurting others.

They reacted impulsively, and often out of anger. Someone insulted them and they struck back. Situations they could have walked away from became major confrontations because they did not know how to handle themselves other than aggressively. They know their behaviour is stupid and they don’t know why they did what they did.

Domestic violence programs are over run. Our prisons are overcrowded and even our schools are not altogether safe. But men who are angry do have a choice. No-one can change the whole world, but there are many things you can change about the way you see yourself, others and the world, and come to understand what triggers your anger along with learning what other actions you can take to keep yourself and others safe. Your marriage, your job and your happiness depend on it.

Individualised anger management counselling is run by the Hart Centre Australia. We have qualified Psychologists in 60 locations around Australia who can help you become the man you want to be. Phone 1300830552 for more information on Anger management counselling and anger management courses.

The Typical Queenslander Style Home

When you think of a typical Queenslander, apart from the massive stilts and open-plan design, one of the most recognisable qualities is the corrugated iron roof.

Since the 1840s when Australia was first developing, corrugated iron has been considered one of the best materials to use for roofing. Because of it’s lightweight, sturdy properties, it is the ideal material to use in terms of easy transportation and construction as well as protection.

Although it is a relatively strong, fire proof and weather-resistant material, if exposed to water (particularly salt) rusting is inevitable. This is why it is extremely important to coat the steel in a layer of paint in order for it to remain protected.

Even today this roofing remains to be one of the most popular choices in materials for a range of reasons. Its flexibility, strength and thin sizing allows for quick repairs, relatively cheap installation and durability with little maintenance.

Apart from the practical side of things, there is also the aesthetics. The typically 3 inch curves rolling into one another create a very symmetrical feel, breaking up the angles of the rest of the house and creating a harmonious contrast.

Since iron is quite a durable material itself, compared to wood it is very easy to prepare for installation. Instead of needing to purchase an expensive sealant, a few layers of paint will generally be enough to prevent any damage.

One aspect of corrugated iron that can pose a genuine issue is the fact that the wavelengths of most sounds are echoed loudly into the tube of the corrugated iron. This means that any noise close to or coming into contact with the roof is going to release a high pitched “ping”. This can be a genuine issue for Queenslanders as falling tree branches and wildlife are a part of our every day lives.

On the other hand, the echo can be the perfect culprit to amplify raindrops into a soothing lullaby and because of the shape of the typically 3 inch tubing and smoothness of the iron, the water runs straight down and off the roof, making cleaning very manageable. Also because it is a very thin material it allows the house to stay cool in the warm summers, making it the ideal choice for a house in Queensland. For roof restoration Brisbane, contact Retro Roof Restoration.

The iron sheets themselves are relatively cheap and can be purchased with a coat of Colorbond or made galvanised to order. They range from around 5 to 45 dollars per sheet depending on the size of the sheet and what coating you have selected.

Compared with other common roofing materials such as clay, slate, concrete, wood, Spanish and asphalt, corrugated iron is often said to be one of the most durable and certainly one of the most cost-effective.

So whether it’s the classic sound of rain on the tin roof, or the practical desires of someone looking for a sturdy home, or anyone who doesn’t want to waste their precious pennies, it is no surprise that corrugated iron is one of the most popular choices in Queensland.

Plantar Fasciitis Treatment Options

Plantar fasciitis is extremely common affecting around 10% of the adult population at some time in life. Commonly plantar fasciitis is associated with heel spurs however on x-ray only 50% of patients with plantar fasciitis have evidence of calcification through the heel (DiMarcangelo, 1997).

Commonly plantar fasciitis symptoms start as an awareness or ache in the morning. Relief treatment can be quite simple at this time however if it is left, these symptoms will often slowly progress to pain that significantly impacts quality of life.

When targeting plantar fasciitis symptoms your practitioner will guide you through the best strategy or combination of strategies to help relieve and control your individual pain. At Body Leadership Australia we recommend a multimodal approach utilising a number of different treatment options.

Soft Tissue Release
Tightness of the muscles surrounding the foot have been found to pull hard enough on the bones that they alter the natural shape of the foot and ankle often leading to plantar fasciitis pain. Accordingly, release techniques and stretching of the lower limb muscles can have an effect on decreasing symptoms associated with plantar fasciitis.

Stretching
Strategic stretching of the calf muscles and Achilles tendon or on the plantar fascia itself can decrease pain associated with plantar fasciitis. You should get a program tailored to your individual needs.

Orthotics
Orthotics can help to relieve the effects of plantar fasciitis. Changing the weight load through the foot can allow the inflammatory response to settle by supporting the foot appropriately.

Night Splints (Strassburg Sock)
The use of a night splint can reduce recovery time compared to the same protocol utilising standing stretches through the calf.

Cortisone
Cortisone was always a last resort due to potential complications and pain post injection. Now with ultrasound guidance outcomes have improved and we see them used more effectively. Cortisone options can be discussed with your health care professional.

Surgery
A number of studies found 75% to 95% of patients had long term improvement as measured by various criteria. Up to 27% of patients still had significant pain, up to 20% had some activity restriction, and up to 12% had moderate pain that impaired function (Brown et al., 1999; Davies et al., 1999; Fishco et al., 2000). Surgical options are always a last resort.

Once your pain is treated and controlled it is important to understand your individual factors that predispose you to plantar fasciitis which can be explained by your physiotherapist. You can then be taught a home program to release tension, particularly through the calf as well as the foot to nip problems in the bud. This can also be optimised using home exercises to improve strength for better control of your biomechanics long term.

If you, your friend or family member suffer from plantar fasciitis please do not hesitate to contact one of our friendly Brisbane sports physiotherapists on 07 3847 8040. Our Brisbane sports physios can also provide treatment from our Brisbane Sports Physiotherapy practice.

How Dating Sites are gaining success within a niche market

There are 7 billion people living on Earth. With all of this variety available it makes you deliberate as to why there are so many singletons out there.

Maybe it’s because we live in a fast paced world where people are too preoccupied to partner up or understand it as a significant pursuit in their lives. Technology aligned with evolution has generated a unique breed of people and we do not all share the same interests like the good old days.

Today’s Online Dating has embodied itself into an easy access platform for a person to find their soulmate with the click of a button. It is presently a $2 billion dollar per year industry, with over 1500 dating sites world-wide and boasts to been responsible for around 280,000 marriages as a result of people hooking up. In Australia, statistically 1 in 10 has found love online and 1 in 6 of those people was between the ages 35-44.

There is no doubt the popularity of the ‘General’ online dating websites out there have had huge success with the following of members on their sites. Some international sites proudly promote unbelieveable numbers of 30 million plus. As majority of sites offer a free sign up it is not quite clear on how many of those 30 million are paying subscriptions, never the less these websites are connecting a lot of people with each other.

Over time in this industry I think people have gotten bored and confused in the ‘General’ online dating websites. Wasting time on meaningless dialogue and pointless banter only to find out there is not much in common with the other party. Some might say you need to kiss a lot of frogs to discover your prince.

Niche online dating websites have come on to the scene thick and strong. Obviously someone noticed a need and leaped at the opportunity to connect people within a niche market. To specify the playing field, so to speak. People bond best when they have something in common. Beliefs, hobbies, race, sexual preference or lifestyle choice can categorise people to meet other [compatible~accordant} singles.

Scientists have conducted studies to find out if in fact like-minded people or opposite people make the more suitable couple. It was discovered that people with corresponding temperaments and world views were more likely to appreciate success and have conflict free marriages than the opposite couples. It is also suggested that people with similar interests were
more likely to meet up in person off the sites.

The niche dating sites available are limitless, probably if you can think it, there has been one created. From Gay to Pet lovers, Christian groups and other religious followings, Asian, Interracial, Vegetarians, Farmers, Cheaters, Beautiful people (ugly people need not apply), Punks, Seniors, Cougars, Sugar Daddies, Military, Single parents, Tall people, big people and even small people. I even managed to stumble upon a site for inmates, geeks and people who like to dance.

There is no doubt catering to a specific audience could be a very productive market. It sounds like a fun experience to enter a world where everyone shares the same interest. Everybody deserves love, why not have it with someone you like?

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