Porn Addiction – a growing phenomenon.

Over the last few years I have noticed a huge increase in the number of clients coming to see me for pornography addiction. With the easy access of porn on line, and on tablets and phones, many men are having trouble resisting the urge to view porn more and more often, and it can be scary how quickly this can turn to an addiction.

Some of the key elements in the development of a porn addiction are starting to watch porn at a young age, controlling or uninvolved parents, loneliness and isolation, seeing a model of unhealthy relationships and early sexual abuse.

Once you have realized that you are addicted, your path to freedom starts with the realization that you’ve lost control around sex. You begin to acknowledge that you’re acting regressively and that you are probably a mature man in many ways, but you don’t understand intimacy and have confused intimacy with sexual activity.

Another thing that can be a he realisation is that you can’t get enough of what won’t satisfy you. Objectifying and sexualizing people is an never ending, negative process that yields a few minutes of excitement, a brief orgasm, then hours, days, weeks, months and years of fear, pain, shame, self doubt, self criticism, judgement and anger.

Doing this work will free you from the shackles of your negative sexual story.

Many men who have done so look back and see this as their rite of passage into true manhood, free of old compulsive sexuality. You can then take the energy you are expending on addictive behavior and channel it into a more satisfying career, intimacy and better relationships with a partner and with your family and friends. You’ll really get a life in the full sense.

Counselling for Porn addiction with qualified and experience Psychologists is available in 60 locations Australia wide at the Hart Centre. Call 1300 830 552 to find out more.

The challenges of Anger Management

Anger is the natural emotion humans feel in responding to a perceived threat, frustration, assault or obstruction to our humanity and who we are.
For men, anger is their most common and immediate reaction to the experience of physical or emotional pain and fear.

Often anger will show up most in a man’s relationship with his partner, and this can develop into violence toward her.

For a partner over time she becomes sick of living with fear, intimidation and humiliation, and usually in time, finds the strength to give him an ultimatum “You get fixed or I’ll get out”.

There needs to be a distinction between anger and violence. Anger is an emotion. Violence is what some people might do when they are angry, or even when they are not. Violence can be physical, emotional or spiritual.

For many men their softer emotions of fear and sadness have been covered or not expressed. They have been taught “Be a man. Be strong. Take control of your life – even if you fail. But don’t show your true feelings – especially your pain and fear”. They only have access to their anger. Anger can cover so much of a man’s personal pain.

The good news is that you can solve your anger problem. Not by berating yourself as sick or sinful, but by recognizing yourself as a human being with an emotional life experience as well as a rational one.

The challenge is not really to work against your anger, but to become aware of where it comes from. To take control of your anger and direct what you do with it.
Anger is not about control. It is about loss of control. For most men losing control is painful and fearful. You can feel vulnerable and feel like you’ve failed. Sometime men fear the consequences of losing control more than just about anything else. The pain of failure and the fear of losing control drives much of men’s anger.

The Hart Centre Australia has around 50 Psychologists in centres around Australia ready to help you manage your anger in individual anger management sessions. Contact the Hart Centre Phone 1300830552 for more details anger management and anger counselling.

Social Media for Brisbane Businesses Explained

Online social media has totally revolutionized not only the way that people interact, but essentially the way that clients deal with businesses.

With more than 700 million people using the internet worldwide, Facebook on its own is a huge marketing body, not to mention other social media powerhouses like Twitter, Youtube, Linkedin and Google Plus. Although we are subject to a lot of media hype and hysteria, social media sites have -in the most basic sense- altered the way that all types of business with a public presence operates, and are now as fundamental to businesses as an email address and a homepage.

But with all of the obvious differences that social media has made to the marketing environment, it is crucial to hold a realistic perspective of its capabilities and results.

Sadly, with any kind of new marketing bandwagon comes a great many shonky or clueless fly-by-night firms and “social media experts” that focus on new businesses by over-hyping the possibilities and under-delivering.

Millions of dollars and countless hours are completely wasted on useless social media ventures every day. But the key to remember is that social media is not magic. Without proper marketing and business fundamentals behind it, an online social media presence will inevitably fail and -depressingly- be a waste of time and money.

Despite creating the illusion of ’no-cost’ advertising with ‘zero’ start-up and/or hosting fees, social media needs a constant presence, fresh content and site maintenance in order to be successful, which demands valuable time spent on it that most companies simply can’t spare. This is where Social Media Brisbane does the work for you, while welcoming room for approval and oversight by their clients.

Examples of how companies often do the wrong thing with social media include:

• Bad Content
Dull or stolen items, out-dated advice, and terrible attempts to be hip are common regarding content published online. Be honest with yourself, people on the internet are perceptive, and can recognise deviousness and condescension from miles.

• Impatience
Building a strong online social network takes time and resolve. A successful network cannot just shoot up in a day, it takes time and content in order to grow. A business may create a social media profile, watch the results for a short period of time and then give up with frustration when they don’t receive the results they hoped for.
This also ties into:

• Consistency
Spacing content out on a regular basis across numerous platforms is far more effective than using up all your content at once or not updating at all. Nobody likes a spammer, but with the overload of information that we receive on a daily basis, without a consistent reminder of your brand’s presence you will be quickly left behind. Just a weekly update can do wonders for maintaining and growing relationships with customers.

We here at Social Media Brisbane understand exactly how social media operates, and treat it as a part of your marketing strategy rather than the be all and end all.

Most importantly, we also integrate revolutionary Search Engine Optimisation techniques into our work, something no other social media group does.

Choosing consultants who value gimmicks over content and who endlessly throw around buzzwords such as “viral” or “Web 2.0” instead of providing strategy and results can simply end up as an exercise in frustration.

If you are looking for a social media consultancy based in Brisbane, contact the Brisbane SEO Company today on 3166 9622.

Why upgrade to enterprise risk management?

The Global Financial Crisis taught us the importance of robust risk management practices in identifying and addressing issues that have the potential to impact on overall business objectives. Many organisations have implemented risk management programs, however a significant proportion of these have yet to realise the benefits of upgrading their programs to best-practice Enterprise Risk Management.

What’s the problem with traditional risk management programs?

Historically, risk management has tended to focus only on the negative – how do we identify what might go wrong? How bad will things get if it does? How can we stop it?

Another feature of old-fashioned risk management has been the tendency for it to be “siloed”, with each section of an organisation having its own approach to managing risk.

Modern, best practice Enterprise Risk Management has moved contemporary risk management programs and thinking beyond these limitations.

Why is Enterprise Risk Management better?

Enterprise Risk Management (also known as ERM) has a range of benefits for contemporary businesses:

  • ERM achieves efficiencies across the whole of the organisation by integrating a common approach throughout all functional areas.
  • ERM avoids the pitfall of concentrating on minor risks (such as slip hazards) at the expense of big picture risks (such as failure of critical infrastructure).
  • ERM captures the positive side of risk management, by also considering opportunities for new services, process efficiencies, improved methods of service delivery etc.

What strategies assist adoption of Enterprise Risk Management?

 

QRMC frequently assists organisations to develop or expand their risk management programs to embrace Enterprise Risk Management. Our experience suggests that useful strategies to successfully move to Enterprise Risk Management include:

  • Strong committed, visible leadership.
  • Recognising that risk management is an ongoing (not once-off) process.
  • Treating risk management as a tool to achieve business objectives, not as a compliance exercise.
  • Extensive consultation with, and training of, personnel (at all levels).
  • Consistently integrating ERM across all systems and functional areas within the organisation.

Special considerations for business or department amalgamation

 

A regular feature of contemporary business is the process of amalgamation, either of existing segments of an organisation, or of one business with a completely independent second business (M&A).

Determining the business objectives of a new organisation formed in this way is not always a straightforward exercise. The clarity provided by the risk management process greatly assists this determination.

However, amalgamation poses particular difficulties when it comes to the risk management program:

  1. There are often difficulties involved in assimilating risk-related information from different sources, produced using different methods.
  2. Amalgamation poses the threat of extending the commonly experienced problem of risk management “silos” (as mentioned above) even further by creating silos based on the original business or department entities.

On the positive side, these difficulties present an opportunity to reach solutions by upgrading existing risk management systems to Enterprise Risk Management. Moving the new entity to Enterprise Risk Management provides opportunities to:

  1. Clearly identify the objectives of the new entity, and what risks and opportunities exist in achieving these objectives.
  2. Break down barriers and foster a new organisation-wide approach to risk management and the determination of uniform risk appetite.

Next steps

 

Risk management as a discipline has proven its value over time. Now businesses can extend this value even further by upgrading to Enterprise Risk Management.

For more information on Enterprise Risk Management, safety management, business continuity management and management systems, contact us. We are experts in providing independent and objective facilitation of the process of upgrading or developing new Enterprise Risk Management programs. You can also access other informative articles on our News page dealing with Enterprise Risk Management, as well as newsletters downloadable from our Publications page covering Enterprise Risk Management issues.

Can I really save fuel with a Truck Wheel Alignment?

Most heavy vehicle owners in the transport industry are asking themselves – How can I save money on my running costs? How can I save on fuel consumption? Will a truck wheel alignment help?

Research & studies conducted around the world show that around 80 percent of medium to heavy vehicles are incorrectly aligned, or have a mis-alignment. If your truck, trailer or bus has incorrectly aligned wheels & axles, you have what we call increased rolling resistance when travelling on the road. This means the engine is working harder than required to push the truck along the road, and the end result is an increase in fuel consumption. Given that fuel can account for up to 50% of the operating costs of a truck or fleet, smart operators must explore all avenues to reduce fuel consumption.
Generally speaking, correcting even slight alignment issues have been shown to result in a saving of 3 – 10 percent on fuel.

3% doesn’t sound too significant does it? Lets take a closer look – One truck runs Brisbane to Sydney (return) 3 times a week (6,000 kms). That’s 312,000 kms a year. Fuel consumption average is 1.85 litres/km. That’s 577,200 litres, current local prices are around $1.49 per litre. Fuel cost for the year – $860,028.00. If you reduced fuel consumption by 3%, you would save $25,800.84!!
Your scenario may be different, but you can see that small changes can make a big difference to the bottom line of your business. There are other areas where you can save on running costs, which will be covered in another article.

If you own one truck or one hundred, and you are not having a regular truck wheel alignment performed as part of your maintenance schedule, you really need to contact your local truck wheel alignment specialist for a chat.

Truckologist is a mobile truck wheel alignment business based in Brisbane, Australia.