Reflections on Life

Life – what is life! Life can be described in many ways and has many facets and interpretations. It presents us with an ongoing stream of experiences of situations, events and interactions of all kinds with other people and our environment.

It is creation in its magnificent splendour – the original bringing into existence of the universe by God.

For humans it is a journey encompassing all the seasons, colour and streams of life’s experiences.

The miracle of new life in any form of creation brings wonder and amazement as we become aware of the intrinsic formation of such an unexplainable divine plan.

For humans there are many rituals and traditions that help celebrate the different seasons and significant moments in life.

A welcoming of a new child might entail a ritual of a Christening or Blessing in the Christian tradition or perhaps a Naming Ceremony for those less religious. In other cultures and belief systems children are welcomed in a variety of ways but none-the-less mostly it is found to be a joyful celebration of the miracle of new birth.

Life can sometimes be brief – the miracle taken back from where it began just as life is beginning – the mystery of why these sad experiences happen not to be explained.

Life changes for humans as the body grows and life is experienced in new ways. Learning takes place as the brain develops and intelligence is gained and used for the betterment of human kind.

At times the human body suffers from physical limitations this being a challenge as strength of spirit and courage come to the fore.

During the seasons of life ritual is shown to be important such as times of celebration when a person reaches the age of eighteen – a time of maturity and starting out as an adult on life’s journey.

Permanency of relationships can be celebrated by the ritual of Marriage as people start a new chapter along the journey called life.

The miracle of new life can emerge again in this relationship of Marriage as a new life is created and welcomed to the world.

As the continuing seasons and cycles of life are observed, life can represent colour as of a rainbow in these seasons of new beginnings, celebrations, changes and endings.

Red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet – colours of the rainbow – how symbolic of life’s journey as the rainbow is composed of the entire spectrum of colour from the shortest wavelength violet to the longest wavelength red.

A closing ritual now takes place as the body has accomplished its purpose and the ending of life as humans know it is honoured and the life celebrated as the spirit travels back to the Divine from whence it came.

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Anger management courses help save marriages

“I thought I was in a pretty good marriage with occasional arguments until my wife said to me “If the next year of our marriage is as bad as the last year, I’m outta here”.

She felt as if she was always walking on eggshells so as not to set me off. Any time she disagreed with me, I immediately went on the attack and tried to defeat her point of view by almost any means. So when she told me she had taken all she could stand, I took her seriously and decided that I had to do some frank soul searching to find out why I kept losing my temper, so I could not lose the person who meant the most to me in the world”.

As I looked back many of my habitual ways of dealing with the world were driven by anger. I was an aggressive driver, using my horn and my “freeway finger” whenever people weren’t travelling the way I thought they should be. If the mechanic told me something needed fixing on my car, I was sure he was exaggerating for his own financial gain. I thought I had an unusual ability to see through a hypocrite, and since I thought that most people were, I got a lot of practice of seeing through them.”

This is one story of a man who came to me for help in dealing with his anger problem.

As a Psychologist, I’ve seen many of my clients lose their jobs, wives and opportunities because they were simply not able to handle the normal frustrations and disappointments in life.
They argue, they insult and they sulk.

They come to see themselves as ineffective, unlucky, of just plain losers. They don’t admit this to anyone, but deep inside they don’t like themselves. Their anger gets in the way of their ability to be good bosses, good workers and good family men.

For many men who have been charged with serious crimes, such as assault and murder, it is clear that these are not pre-meditated. These men didn’t start out with the intention of hurting others.

They reacted impulsively, and often out of anger. Someone insulted them and they struck back. Situations they could have walked away from became major confrontations because they did not know how to handle themselves other than aggressively. They know their behaviour is stupid and they don’t know why they did what they did.

Domestic violence programs are over run. Our prisons are overcrowded and even our schools are not altogether safe. But men who are angry do have a choice. No-one can change the whole world, but there are many things you can change about the way you see yourself, others and the world, and come to understand what triggers your anger along with learning what other actions you can take to keep yourself and others safe. Your marriage, your job and your happiness depend on it.

Individualised anger management counselling is run by the Hart Centre Australia. We have qualified Psychologists in 60 locations around Australia who can help you become the man you want to be. Phone 1300830552 for more information on Anger management counselling and anger management courses.

The challenges of Anger Management

Anger is the natural emotion humans feel in responding to a perceived threat, frustration, assault or obstruction to our humanity and who we are.
For men, anger is their most common and immediate reaction to the experience of physical or emotional pain and fear.

Often anger will show up most in a man’s relationship with his partner, and this can develop into violence toward her.

For a partner over time she becomes sick of living with fear, intimidation and humiliation, and usually in time, finds the strength to give him an ultimatum “You get fixed or I’ll get out”.

There needs to be a distinction between anger and violence. Anger is an emotion. Violence is what some people might do when they are angry, or even when they are not. Violence can be physical, emotional or spiritual.

For many men their softer emotions of fear and sadness have been covered or not expressed. They have been taught “Be a man. Be strong. Take control of your life – even if you fail. But don’t show your true feelings – especially your pain and fear”. They only have access to their anger. Anger can cover so much of a man’s personal pain.

The good news is that you can solve your anger problem. Not by berating yourself as sick or sinful, but by recognizing yourself as a human being with an emotional life experience as well as a rational one.

The challenge is not really to work against your anger, but to become aware of where it comes from. To take control of your anger and direct what you do with it.
Anger is not about control. It is about loss of control. For most men losing control is painful and fearful. You can feel vulnerable and feel like you’ve failed. Sometime men fear the consequences of losing control more than just about anything else. The pain of failure and the fear of losing control drives much of men’s anger.

The Hart Centre Australia has around 50 Psychologists in centres around Australia ready to help you manage your anger in individual anger management sessions. Contact the Hart Centre Phone 1300830552 for more details anger management and anger counselling.

How Dating Sites are gaining success within a niche market

There are 7 billion people residing on Earth. With all of this variety available it makes you wonder why there are so many singletons out there.

Maybe it’s because we live in a fast paced society where people are too busy to partner up or approach it as a priority in their lives. Technology combined with evolution has developed a unique breed of people and we do not all share the same commonalities like the good old days.

Today’s Online Dating has embodied itself into an easy access platform for a person to find their soulmate with the click of a button. It is presently a $2 billion dollar per year industry, with over 1500 dating sites world-wide and boasts to been responsible for around 280,000 marriages as a result of people hooking up. In Australia, statistically 1 in 10 has found love online and 1 in 6 of those people was between the ages 35-44.

There is no doubt the popularity of the ‘General’ online dating websites out there have had huge success with the following of members on their sites. Some international sites proudly promote staggering numbers of 30 million plus. As majority of sites offer a free sign up it is not quite clear on how many of those 30 million are paying subscriptions, never the less these enterprises are connecting a lot of people with each other.

Over time in this industry I think people have gotten tired and confused in the ‘General’ online dating websites. Wasting time on meaningless dialogue and useless banter only to discover there is not much in sync with the other party. Some might say you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince.

Niche online dating websites have launched on to the scene thick and fast. Obviously someone noticed a need and jumped at the opportunity to connect people within a specific market. To specify the playing field, so to speak. People bond best when they have something in common. Beliefs, hobbies, race, sexual preference or lifestyle choice can class people to meet other [compatible~accordant} singles.

Scientists have conducted studies to determine if in fact like-minded people or opposite people make the more suitable couple. It was discovered that people with corresponding temperaments and world views were more likely to appreciate success and have conflict free marriages than the opposite couples. It is also suggested that people with similar interests were
more likely to meet up in person off the sites.

The niche dating sites available are endless, probably if you can think it, there has been one formed. From Gay to Pet lovers, Christian groups and other religious followings, Asian, Interracial, Vegetarians, Farmers, Cheaters, Beautiful people (ugly people need not apply), Punks, Seniors, Cougars, Sugar Daddies, Military, Single parents, Tall people, big people and even small people. I even managed to come across a site for inmates, geeks and people who like to dance.

There is no doubt catering to a specific audience could be a very effective market. It sounds like a fun experience to set foot in a world where everyone shares the same values. Everybody deserves love, why not share it with someone you like?

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Kids Magician Brisbane – Johnny the Jester Rocks!

Johnny the Jester is a professional Brisbane children’s magician who provides all sorts of fun forms of entertainment for children to enjoy. He has performed magic shows for kids in schools, shopping centres and other places around Brisbane. He’s also performed Christmas Day shows for the past few years at the Mater Childrens Hospital while also working for the Royal Brisbane Hospital Wonder Factory. He currently has his work open for birthday parties and other private events around the Brisbane area.

His magic show is filled with all sorts of illusions and tricks that kids will love but it’s his python that’s especially popular. His python is pretty long and can be safely placed around anyone’s shoulders. While he loves to showcase this big python, he also talks about things like what to do when people see such a snake in the wild and how pythons vary based on their appearances and where they live.

For the past fifteen years, Johnny the Jester has been working as a Kids Magician Brisbane who has performed for all sorts of kids in a variety of places in and around Brisbane. He’s even performed at Stockland and Westfield to name a few other places. Today he’s available for Brisbane children’s parties.

He’s especially great at charming snakes and getting them to relax. His skills make it easy for people to watch his python in action and to get up close and personal with it.

Parents can even take pictures of their kids playing with the huge snake. Photo opportunities are not only open but also encouraged. This will certainly be great for parents and kids alike considering how unique the python demonstration is.

Johnny’s magic shows last about an hour with fifteen minutes dedicated to his python show. He has plenty of fun and interactive things to show for children and even has a rabbit and a dove for his show. One of his favourite things when setting up his shows is to have his rabbit and dove disappear and come back. He has many other illusions for kids to watch too.

He’ll even supply party bags for all the kids at his events. These include all sorts of fun and magical party favours.

Parents who are interested in hiring Johnny the Jester for Brisbane children’s parties can watch one of his shows for free on Friday and Saturday nights before choosing to book him for their events. He performs on Friday nights at the Everton Park Hotel and Saturday nights at the Monier Hotel.

He can even be hired for adult parties as well. Johnny the Jester is available for corporate events, weddings and promotional events at trade shows among other places. While children are his key focus, he is willing to entertain anyone.

Parents can also find all sorts of additional party products from Johnny the Jester. Jumping castles, popcorn machines and cotton candy machines are all available for rent from his site. He offers these products to rent for any party in Brisbane but he especially encourages them for his shows to make them more memorable.

Parents who are looking to find some attractive entertainment options for Brisbane children’s parties should see what Johnny the Jester has to offer. Johnny has a number of fun things to bring out in his children’s parties and will certainly make any event more fun.